Sunday, October 25, 2009


"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."  -- Anais Nin

When I was a child I had no social skills. I had a hard time making friends because I just didn't know how to do it. In fact, I was so certain that I wouldn't be liked that I pretty much made it impossible for anyone to get close to me.  By the time I was in junior high school, I just figured friendship was a lost cause.

I had five older brothers and no sisters. So I had an easier time becoming friends with males than females. I never fit into the cliques, knowing how to navigate the you're-in-now-your're-out minefield of female groups.

In high school my learning curve finally started to kick in. It was a slow process. Then I went away to college where I was able to completely reinvent myself without the baggage of who I had been before.

In the years since then I am overwhelmed with the people who have come into my life, and allowed me to touch theirs. I was not given sisters by birth; I have been given sisters of the soul.

Different friendships serve different purposes. There are temporary friendships, permanent ones, revolving door friendships, project-oriented friendships, and others based upon proximity. What they all have in common is love and discovery.

These angels in my life are the answer to the prayers of a socially-inept girl. I tell my friends that I love them. On the phone, in e-mails, on facebook, in person. Many of them are sweet enough to say it back. The especially dear ones beat me to it. 

I often hear people complain that "the world isn't fair" and isn't just. I agree that those comments are true, but I say it with joy rather than contempt. If each of us got what we deserved I shudder to think what our lives would become. God has granted me abundantly more than I have asked or dreamed of. We don't live in a world that's fair. We do live in a world that is merciful. My friends have taught me that.

I love you.


1 comment:

Niki :-) said...

I was, and still am, the same that you are/were. I have a hard time making friends, and keeping friends. I am a friendly person, with lots of love to give. I'm nt quite sure what I'm doing wrong. I know growing up we moved a lot, maybe that's why I couldn't form close relationships. Now that I'm working, I hate to make friends with people I work with. You never still have to work with them if the friendship doesn't work out. So now I go to church. Maybe I'll find more friends. I tend to get along with older people. The 3 friends I do have are 10 or more years older than me.